Self Harm Help
If you or a friend are self-harming, it’s important that you talk to someone about what you’re going through.
I can help if:
- you’re engaging in self-harm
- you know someone who is engaging in self-harm
- you’re looking for self-harm support services.
- you just need an experienced expert to speak to
The common reasons why people may self-harm are:
- coping with overwhelming emotional distress
- coping with difficult feelings
- to give the feeling of control in your life
Overwhelming emotional distress
A very common reason for self-harm, self-injury is coping with overwhelming emotional pain, possibly from social problems, trauma or intrapersonal reasons that keep one stuck in the cycle………
- physical ill-health, limitation or when our immediate environment is one of distress
- having difficulties at work or school, particularly when we feel disempowered such as being bullied, harassed, manipulated or controlled in some way
- difficult relationships with friends or family which result in us feeling unacknowledged, dismissed or isolated
- when we see ourselves as less than other people, and make comparisons which make us feel negatively towards ourselves
- coping coming to terms with sexuality
- coping with the expectations of others upon you
Trauma is the emotional response to an experience, e.g. a terrible incident or event which results in feeling helpless, frightened, vulnerable, hurt, or alone. It is very hard to generalise things as traumatic, however, traumatic experiences often involve a threat to one’s safety or worse; their life. That said, any situation that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and alone can be traumatic, even if it doesn’t involve physical harm. The specific details of the event does not determine whether it is traumatic, rather, it is your subjective emotional experience that is the determining factor. Generally, the more frightened and helpless you feel, the more likely you are to be traumatized.
- having repetitive and intrusive thoughts
- sleep deprivation
Contact me – I am here to explore with you your relationship to the behaviour of self-harm, self-injury. My belief is “that its anti-thesis is self-care”, e.g. supporting one’s self through self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-empowerment, and also identifying reliable others who can support you too. Too often, we bring our empty buckets to wells that are familiar, but unfortunately leave us thirsty for the relationship needs we yearn for. With my support you can identify the obstacles to you meeting for yourself and receiving from others; the unmet needs which make self-harm, self-injury a seemingly necessary go to.